Personal Boundaries

Owing to inherited social concepts about our bodies, as well as various injuries and traumas that are a part of life, almost everyone holds some unconscious tension in the buttocks, belly, perineum, genitals and anal region. These are usually the oldest tensions in the body. Some even formed at pre verbal times of our lives. Some practitioners, as they relate to these parts of their bodies, uncover shame guilt, fear, pride, arrogance, loneliness, numbness, abuse, or even survival anxieties. Others may be physically weak in these places due to hernia, episiotomy or other medical procedures.

Therefore to be willing to let go of even a portion of that protection is a very personal and intimate choice. We can only deeply relax here if we feel it is within our control to feel safe. Some are, and others are not ready to make such a choice. Each practitioner must be sensitive to his or her own needs, and be responsive to his or her unique developmental time in order to establish the psychological safety required for this practice. Because many of us have either denied or over emphasized this part of our body for so long, this practice combined with compassionate awareness, steadfast patience, and relaxed determination helps balance our energies.

We take steps to release our bindings only if we feel safe to create our own boundaries. Psychologically, it is a powerful choice and a developmental step to embrace core strength.

As Marianne Williamson said: "Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate. Our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure."

Owning our power is one of the great benefits of mulabandha practice. As we experiment with using core strength and letting go of our old ways of holding ourselves, we realize that it is possible to let go of our habitual methods of safety, (tension, numbness, fight or flight, self sabotage, doing it right, looking good) and still survive.

We find an inner confidence that lets us face and release our reluctance to embody all that we secretly know ourselves to be.